Why couldn't I have married Al Bundy instead of my abuser?

Okay! I didn't honestly wish that. But, hear me out, Al had his faults:

He drank but he didn't come home slap Peg or the kids around or call them names.

He was crude- He was off color and was skimming the creepy side of checking out women.

Made some really bad decisions- Despite this, he almost always came up on top in the end.

He was always dreaming of hooters- He still was faithful and came home to Peg.

He was a shoe salesman but he had a job.

He loved his family- There was a moral to the plot as campy as they were.

If there was a situation that didn't end well he made up with Peg and the kids.

I know that is not real life, but around the time of the Huxtable's (Pre-scandal) and Keaton's, this was about the time I wished I had a family and husband like those TV families. I would have settled for Al! Do you know what I mean? 

Al and the other TV husband's I could handle being married to. Living from day to day in the life I was at that time was scary! There was never a moment when we had bliss without an underlying thought of when is he going to fly off the handle? 

Oh, the list of 'Why did I not leave sooner" is as long as my arm. Reflecting back things had to end as they did. I feel I am at this pivotal point where I am honestly comfortable with that amazing woman in the mirror. She stepped out of faith and took a leap though she was scared and fearful. Letting go and trusting God while skeptical is not easy. This took a lot of thought! You would think this would be a no-brainer, but it was an inner fight with my spirit to say, "I'm gone!" Now, I can say that I do this not only for serving my God, but to be a voice for those that are forever silenced by abuse.  

If you are teetering, I get it! I've been there, got the t-shirt and the postcard. If you can make a plan to leave. Get in touch with your local shelter for tips and suggestions. Contact the police department for help, many departments have advocates that can help. Of course, there are times you just have to go ASAP! 

I started a Facebook group that want to talk connect with other Overcomers and victims. I'm changing the group settings to private. If you are interested message me privately on my page- Hope when there was none. I hope to add Ladies that are coaches, business mavens, or visionaries that can also share information with members. Not as a buy this program informercial but to help. I'm putting feelers out for this one. 

Is there a topic that you would like to see here? Let me know!

Wherever you are on your journey please stay safe, Dear One. I believe in you!

BIG HUGS,
Mel



*Have you ever wondered why I leave a picture of me? It's not a vanity thing. I leave a picture so you can put a face to abuse. I share it to remind you that I could be your neighbor, friend, or family member. I leave my picture because I'm alive to do so. I survived and want you to know that you can too!*