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Abuse doesn't stop at the court room. Melinda has shared her battles in her life and through the court room as she navigates through the legal system Bringing encouragement, insight and empowerment to those that are in a abusive relationship. She is in the process of creating a new life, speaking engagements to "Break the Silence" of abuse, while putting a face to abuse. She is currently working on writing a book about her experiences as a Survivor.View short Bio here- https://www.patheos.com/blogs/ahappymedium/2013/02/notbrokenbutbrave/

Friday, March 30, 2012

Article on Soul-mate to Psychopath

There is an amazing amount of similarities between Soon To Be Ex in this article. This is one of the labels placed on him during a stint in the hospital for a suicide attempt in 2007 and 2009, amongst a  number of other labels.

When you are in the beginning of this type of relationship you may not notice or blow off somethings. He may just seem like a tough cookie but you learn later he's (or she) is really burnt around the edges and should be discarded (skip the compost pile and break it up before you place this cookie in the garbage!).

If you know someone that is some sort of abusive relationship PLEASE encourage them to get out. If you have children in a abusive relationship the damage done may not show up until months or years after leaving. I can not stress that if you can not leave the relationship for you PLEASE think of your children.

If your child grew up to find a abusive partner what would you tell him (her)? We tend to think in the moment about things in our lives and we should really be thinking about the future...

Be safe!
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Soul-mate to Psychopath: The Most Dangerous Perpetrators of Family Violence

Successful psychopaths are not easy to recognize, although most people think they would be easy to spot... (Hmmm, I think I need a psychopath detector. Anyone know where I can get one of them on a budget? Pocket size would be best...)

Would You Spot a Psycho?

(Please note - model shown for illustration only. Image courtesy of: djcodrin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net)
(Please note - model shown for illustration only. Image courtesy of: djcodrin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net)

Profile of a Successful Psychopath:

Successful psychopaths and sociopaths are very hard to spot, and there are no foolproof guidelines that will help us to recognize them. Most people think of psychopaths as sleazy characters and/or repeat criminals. They may imagine somebody with a dark personality or a man with an insane look in his eye. Most think of a person like Hannibal Lecter in the movie Silence of the Lambs, or real life people like Charles Manson or Jack the Ripper. While this description might be true for unsuccessful psycho's, it is not always true for successful psychopaths.

No, he couldn't be.....surely?

(Please note - model shown for illustration only. Image courtesy of: djcodrin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net)
(Please note - model shown for illustration only. Image courtesy of: djcodrin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net)

Do you know a Successful Psychopath?

One could be closer than you think....
Unfortunately, a successful psychopath is usually a person who most people would consider to be "a really nice guy/gal".  The reality is that they are quite difficult to profile, and in fact,  there are more psychopaths living among us than we realize.
They may live next door, down the street, or perhaps even in the same house. This doesn't mean we all need to be paranoid, but it can pay to be cautious of people who display clusters of the personality and behavior traits mentioned below:
Those who have known them for longer will notice they can sometimes be:
  • Superficially Charming
  • Arrogant
  • Ignorant
  • Self-Important
  • Non-genuine
  • Unrealistic
  • Irresponsible
  • Inconsistent
  • Dishonest
  • Greedy
  • Unreliable
  • Insincere
  • Grandiose
  • Shallow
  • Irrational
  • Paranoid
  • Promiscuous
  • Domineering
  • Judgmental
  • Selfish

Most acquaintances, friends and extended family members will usually consider them to be:

  • Charming
  • Intelligent
  • Polite
  • Gallant
  • Misunderstood
  • Considerate
  • Helpful
  • Genuine
  • Generous
  • Caring
  • Knowledgeable
  • Capable
  • Compassionate
  • Impulsive
  • Likable
  • Sincere
  • Romantic
  • Emotional
  • A victim of circumstance
  • Selfless
Their Victims and/or partners will find out that they can be:
  • Unfaithful
  • Callous
  • Violent
  • Vicious
  • Cruel
  • Sadistic
  • Parasitic
  • Malicious
  • Misogynistic
  • Contemptuous
  • Narcissistic
  • Manipulative
  • Unpredictable
  • Secretive
  • Pretentious
  • Conning
  • Shameless
  • Obsessive
  • Authoritative
  • Insensitive
  • Egotistic
  • Heartless
  • Vengeful

So how do they fool others so effectively?

  • They are unable to feel Remorse, Shame or Guilt.
  • They are able to act as though they have normal emotions, very convincingly.
  • They appear so likable because they mirror their victims' values, beliefs and interests.
  • They are incapable of Unconditional Love.
  • They are incapable of real human attachment to another.
  • They have an unrealistic perception of themselves (narcissism, grandiosity, self-importance not based on achievements).
  • They are Pathological Liars.
  • They lack a realistic Life Plan.
  • They often have a Parasitic Lifestyle.
  • They are capable of Criminal Versatility and Entrepreneurial Versatility.
  • They do not perceive that anything is wrong with them.
  • They appear to be what ever they want you to think they are (Glibness/Superficial Charm).
  • They are selective of which actions they will take responsibility for.
  • They have an excessive need for Stimulation.
  • They are very capable and skilled at subtle cruelty.
  • They have a complete lack of Empathy.
  • They have poor Behavioral Controls.
  • They exhibit promiscuous Sexual Behavior.
  • They are often guilty of Infidelity.
  • They show contempt of those who seek to understand them.
  • Their ultimate goals are the creation of willing victims and then enslavement of their victim(s).
  • They exercise despotic control over every aspect of the victim's life.
  • They have a need to justify their crimes and therefore need their victim's affirmation (respect, gratitude and love).

Psychopathic Dads - Mum, There's a Monster in Your Bedroom!

If you can relate to any of the following, I suggest you run:

  • Your partner claims to love and respect you, but you keep getting contradictory reports about what he says to your family and friends.
  • A person you know insists that they are not violent yet regularly watches real life snuff videos, and other violent videos, and finds them amusing.
  • You find the "computer illiterate" person in your life researching "how to thwart time date stamping" on a computer hackers web site.
  • Your self-confessed homophobic partner gets emails from gay dating sites.
  • After 2 months without being touched by your partner, you ask why and they say they are just not that interested in sex anymore, but then you find numerous stashes of hand cream, tissues and dirty jocks in various strange places around the house.
  • You tell your "soul-mate" that their friend once raped you and they respond with "well that's ok, I raped him".
  • You find a balaclava, shovel and rope in your partner's car and find yourself wondering if you are living with a serial killer
  • A person who claims to love you more than anything puts a loaded weapon on the table, says that he knows of one way you can make life better for everyone around you and then goes out for two hours.
  • Your kids tell you that there is a monster sleeping in your bedroom...

Sometimes your knight In shining armour is just a retard in tin foil

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Copyright © 2010 Mel Stewart, "safe-at-last", of Perth, Western Australia. All rights reserved.


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